Sunday, July 5, 2009

Discussion Sunday

We return to the twelth topic, regarding the act of switching, or being on both sides of the paddle. So far, only two readers have chimed in, and I haven't put my own thoughts into the mix, yet. Still, I want to see a few more responses before I do.

Are you or have you been a switch? How do you feel about switches, in general? If you know that someone is a switch, would they get more respect from you, or less?

Please post your answers and thoughts as comments to this post, or feel free to stop by our chatroom to talk about your thoughts and experiences, particularly between the hours of 8:00pm and 10:00pm, Eastern time, which will be our official chat time. I’ll be in the chatroom throughout the rest of the day to discuss the topic with you, as well as to provide my own answers to these questions. If you comment to the discussion, don’t feel that you have to limit yourself to one post. If you later feel that you have something else to add, either as an afterthought or in response to another poster, please do so. These discussions are about open dialogue and sharing of ideas. If you have something to contribute, join in.

Previous Discussion

Innsomnia said…
I like switches and have no ill feelings towards them. My own Domme is actually a switch, which I think makes her better at dominating me, since I feel that she understands the sub experience more intimately than a pure Dom.

cookie said…
I have never identified myself as a switch. I am pretty much pure bottom. However I have meet a few switches and I have given a few playful swats to others. But as far as being a switch I dont have any want to be a spanker. I wouldnt be able to be a spanker on a regular basis as far as beyond a playful swat here and there. I have meet quite a few switches at parties. I dont have any less respect for them then anyone else. They are still people and still spankos. I have been spanked by a few switches as well. I dont really think it matters whether they also get spanked at times or not. I am friends with people that I get along with and like regardless of the orientation they identify with sexually or otherwise.

Shygirl70 said…
Mr. Wonderful & I are experimenting with switching. As I recently blogged, I feel sexy an powerful dominating him, I feel safe and protected and comforted when he dominates me. We don't live together and probably never will, so this is mainly played out as fantasy, but the biggest part of my fantasy is using all these role plays to fantasize that he really does dominate every aspect of my life. I don't know, if we were a traditional couple, if we would switch. But it's enjoyable for us and we both seem to like exploring our sexual relationship from both sides of the aisle

Saturday, July 4, 2009

Third of July Fireworks

Last night, I took a quick trip over to the other side of town to meet with Sarah Love, an old friend of mine that I met going to Leelee's parties in Atlanta. She moved down to Florida about two years ago, though I've only recently been able to meet with her. For those past two years, though, she's been pretty much without any kind of spanking play, so she's been getting increasingly in need of some intensive bottomwarming. Since we've been living so close together all this time, and since I'm one of the few spankers that she'd trust with her bottom after such along dry spell, we arranged a quick playdate.

It took about an hour to get across town to her new apartment. Although small, her new home is something that she's very proud of. It's been quite a while since she's last been on her own, and she relishes the privacy and freedom that living alone gives her. Having had so little contact since she moved down from Atlanta, we spent several minutes chatting on the couch while she snuggled against my chest.

Once we were ready to get started, though, we moved to her small bedroom. She was a bit concerned about having enough light, I felt that there was plenty for me to work with. As long as I could see and find her bottom reliably, it was enough, and I even had enough lighting to see the redness. Now, if I had taken video or pictures (which I didn't, so sorry, guys), then it would probably have been a different story. Besides, there was a spot on her back that's been acting up, so the bed was the most comfortable spot to be spanked in.

I started over her thin pants, at least until she was warmed up sufficiently. After that, the pants came down and her thong and bare flesh was revealed underneath. I played with her for at least half of an hour, mixing spanking with tickling and sensation play. She was a bit worried that she wouldn't be able to handle much after going for so long without play, but she actually did quite well. By the time that we were finished, I was giving her some pretty solid swats. I finished with a vicious grand finale of hard spanks that really warmed her up.

By then, I figured that it was a suitable point to stop and let her rest. Since this was just her first spanking in two years, I didn't want to push her too far too quickly, even though I felt that she could probably still hold up for a lot more. It's better to be safe, though, and sorry. I had her pull herself up fully onto the bed, then held her while she rested up from the experience.

We spent about an hour talking after that, simply sharing some information about our lives. In particular, we talked a lot about some unfortunate events that have been playing out in my life with Cookie's family. Because of her own past, she was actually able to offer me a lot of insight on the situation, though little that I can use to repair it. It gave me a chance to vent, though, and have my thoughts and fears taken seriously.

I had to get home sometime, though, as Cookie and I had a lot of plans for Independence Day with the family. After some quick goodbyes and a hug, I headed out for the night. Sarah even sent me home with a thank-you note for Cookie, saying that she appreciated her sharing her time with me.

Thursday, July 2, 2009

New Affiliate

I really wasn't going to post anything, tonight, but I figured that I'd add in this little mention since I just added a new site to my affiliates. I am now affiliated with Punished Brats, a marvelous spanking video site that uses several notable spankers and spankees, including Richard Windsor, who is hosting the 2009 SpankingTube Challenge. I've actually been wanting to affiliate to their site for some time, but it's not something that I've noticed actively promoted on their site. However, I recently received an invitation, so I jumped at the chance. Check them out, and you won't be disappointed.

Wednesday, July 1, 2009

Affiliate Stats

It’s no secret that I use affiliates to bring in a small amount of income for my blogging efforts. While I regularly post statistics for my visitor traffic, I’ve never looked too far into where that traffic goes when it follows one of those links away. So, I’ll be looking into a few numbers along those lines from the time since I first added affiliates to my blog.

Almost six thousand readers followed the links on my blog to English Spankers, probably at least partially because of my regular video reviews for that company. A few seemed to like what they saw, since it represents the largest source of online income among my affiliates. I had nine total sales, and three following rebills, which equaled over two hundred dollars in revenue for my blog since I first started taking affiliates. Understandable, since the site produces some fine spanking videos.

Spanking Bailey came in with the second highest revenue for my site with almost a hundred and a half, though considerably less traffic with only about two thousand visitors heading there from my blog. In fact, all of this revenue comes from a single buyer who renewed his membership seven times. Not as impressive, when you think about it, but there was still something that kept that one person coming back. When you consider how many memberships don’t get renewed, it’s not that bad.

Third place, monetarily speaking, is Discipline and Desire. At only around eight dollars for a month membership, it’s certainly more affordable than most sites on my sidebar. So, to bring in about a hundred and twenty dollars from three thousand visits isn’t something to sneeze at. All of this, though, came from only four initial sales. These four sales have led to twenty seven rebills, though, which is where the bulk of this affiliate’s revenue comes from. Perfectly reasonable, though, since each month brings new stories and cartoons about our favorite pastime, all of professional quality.

All three of these sites are excellent, and were certainly worth the money paid for them. Still, any of my affiliates are worth a look. Here are the rest.


Sound Punishment
Firm Hand Spanking
Real Spankings
Spanking Teen Brandi
Spanking Teen Jessica
Real Spanking Institute
Real Spanking Pass
Cutie Spankee
Bun Beating Fun
Bad Tushy
Redneck Spankings
Spanked Sweeties
Girl Spanks Girl
My Spanking Roommate
Clare Fonda Pass
BiSpanking
Spanked Call Girls
Red Stripe Films
Spanking Sarah
Dallas Spanks Hard
Spank Amber
Amber Spanks
Spanking Experience
Spanking Bare Butts
Spanking Videos
Far East Media
HiDef Spanking
Spanking Casting
Big Booty Spanking
Sam’s Diaries
Spankmaster General
Spanking Scenes
Spanked Cheeks

Tuesday, June 30, 2009

Catching Up, but More to Come

Sorry, but I’ve been slacking off more than I should be over the past few days. I have access to two computers, but simply haven’t had the opportunity to do much on either of them. Joyce’s computer has trouble accessing Blogger for some reason, limiting my ability to work on that terminal. Here at home, our computer has access, but is slower. Plus, I hardly have enough time at home to get much of anything done. Curse you, family responsibilities! *shakes fist menacingly*

So, I haven’t been able to finish the affiliate jumble that I’ve been working on, or adding new affiliates. I haven’t been able to post more videos to SpankingTube, or to check out another videohosting site that I may be able to post my review previews on. Cookie and I also haven’t had time for any significant spanking play, or to make any videos.

I promise that I will be catching up on these things, though, especially the videos. We will actually be getting set to make several videos over the next few weeks, which will be posted around the blogosphere.

The first of these will be our starting entry into Richard Windsor’s 2009 SpankingTube Challenge. It looks like we have six couples, though we might be adding two more shortly. If we stay at six, we will have three head to head matchups between the couples, and the three winners from each matchup going on to the final round. If we get eight, then we might have a round of head to head semifinals between the final four, then a championship matchup between the final two couples. Cookie and I are slated to have our first video of no more than six minutes up on SpankingTube sometime next Saturday. The remaining one or two videos will follow shortly thereafter, as determined by Richard. Check his blog, the House of Richard Windsor, for more information on the Challenge, and be sure to watch all the couples on SpankingTube

Also, Cookie was approached by Lee from Paddle Master Products with a request for us to make a video for him to use on his website. He’s sending her the very first model of a new paddle that he’s made. Obviously, I’m assuming that the video will be a promotional video for the paddle, though we don’t yet know what Lee has in mind. Still, I’m looking forward to seeing our work on another site, even if it’s not a spanking video site.

Additionally, Cookie and I want to return to the Cookie Challenge, perhaps with a different implement. We’ve been having bad luck with the lexan, and might have better results if we move on to a new toy. I’m thinking about my leather strap, but we’ll see.

Yes, it’s been slow around here, but things will be picking up soon.

Sunday, June 28, 2009

Discussion Sunday

We return to the twelth topic, regarding the act of switching, or being on both sides of the paddle. So far, only two readers have chimed in, and I haven't put my own thoughts into the mix, yet. Still, I want to see a few more responses before I do.

Are you or have you been a switch? How do you feel about switches, in general? If you know that someone is a switch, would they get more respect from you, or less?

Please post your answers and thoughts as comments to this post, or feel free to stop by our chatroom to talk about your thoughts and experiences, particularly between the hours of 8:00pm and 10:00pm, Eastern time, which will be our official chat time. I’ll be in the chatroom throughout the rest of the day to discuss the topic with you, as well as to provide my own answers to these questions. If you comment to the discussion, don’t feel that you have to limit yourself to one post. If you later feel that you have something else to add, either as an afterthought or in response to another poster, please do so. These discussions are about open dialogue and sharing of ideas. If you have something to contribute, join in.

Previous Discussion

Innsomnia said…
I like switches and have no ill feelings towards them. My own Domme is actually a switch, which I think makes her better at dominating me, since I feel that she understands the sub experience more intimately than a pure Dom.

cookie said…
I have never identified myself as a switch. I am pretty much pure bottom. However I have meet a few switches and I have given a few playful swats to others. But as far as being a switch I dont have any want to be a spanker. I wouldnt be able to be a spanker on a regular basis as far as beyond a playful swat here and there. I have meet quite a few switches at parties. I dont have any less respect for them then anyone else. They are still people and still spankos. I have been spanked by a few switches as well. I dont really think it matters whether they also get spanked at times or not. I am friends with people that I get along with and like regardless of the orientation they identify with sexually or otherwise.

Saturday, June 27, 2009

Handling the Technical Problems

Well, I’ve taken a long look at the options, and realized a few things. I’ve got some good news, and some bad news, though I think that the blog will survive through all of it.

First of all, I found that my Fileden account really isn’t expired. It just ran out of bandwidth normally. My account actually won’t expire until October, so I’m alright on that side of things. I’m guessing that the expiration warning that I found in my inbox was probably a scammer trying to get at my account. It’s a good thing that I didn’t click on anything. Since I had just found all of my bandwidth exceeded at the same time that the email arrived, I assumed that it was a true email. I should have known better, though, when the topic had “expiry” as one of the words. I’m usually better about spotting misspellings like that. Regardless, bandwidth should be reset in a couple of days, and all images lost in the interim will return.

However, since my bandwidth did run out on its own, I will have to cut back on my bandwidth use in order to prevent this from happening again. I’ve already done a lot to ease up on my bandwidth usage. Since I don’t really need two affiliate links on each page, I deleted the larger banners at the bottom of the page, and left the buttons in the sidebar. I’ve also set Thomas’s Picks to only show three images on each page, thereby lessening the load on my assigned bandwidth. I also may go looking through each affiliate that I have a “naughty” button banner from, and see if I can find a cleaner button that I can put on Photobucket, instead. I originally picked the buttons that I liked best, since I felt better images would attract people to click on them. However, no one will click a link that says “bandwidth exceeded.” By lessening my load on Fileden, I should be able to prevent future bandwidth shortages.

The issue with my movie reviews doesn’t look so bright, though. Since there are limited resources for someone wanting to host dirty videos online, I’m pretty much out in the cold. Right now, I only know of SpankingTube as someplace to post my videos. Since Pornkolt has become irreparably fouled by its owners, I really don’t have any other videohosting site to turn to.

So, I’ve decided that when my current accounts to the two remaining sites that I review for run out, I will not ask to renew them. I will not be reviewing videos in the future, since I’m pretty much at the mercy of SpankingTube for posting previews, and I’m screwed if they start affiliating with those two remaining sites. For the time being, I will continue reposting the previews for past reviews, and hope for the best. Should SpankingTube add the two remaining sites to their affiliates, then I may try to put still images in the place of the reviews, if I have the time to do so. I’m a bit hesitant to do this, though, since it means increasing the Fileden bandwidth load that I’m already trying to ease on.

Since reviews have always been just a small part of my blog, I don’t think that they’ll truly be missed. It will also give me more room for other ideas that I’m working on. More on this will come in the future.

Tomorrow, I’m setting the day aside for a blog cleanup. I’ll be moving affiliates around on my blogs, and trying to set things straight. Hopefully, it will prevent future technical difficulties of the kind that we’ve been experiencing.

Friday, June 26, 2009

Fantasy Friday

It’s been a long time since I’ve graduated from high school, and I’ve long since lost track of many of the friends that I had during that time. I was never the nostalgic type, so keeping in contact simply didn’t appeal to me. Plus, I was never that popular, anyway, so I expected that none of my former acquaintances would take much of an interest in knowing how to find me. My more recent excursions into perversity gave me all the more reason to expect my old schoolmates to keep me at arm’s length.

So, I never went to any reunions, or belonged to any kind of organization that would make finding me an easy task. I lived well off of the radar. I found it quite surprising, therefore, when I got an email from an old classmate that wanted to meet up and reacquaint herself with me. I wasn’t sure how she got my address, though I figured a simple search may have found it, since I use my real name for everything.

So, I now sit across the table from this former cheerleader that sat next to me in my homeroom class in my senior year of high school. She’s as lovely as I remember her, and I’ve had plenty of reason to hold her in my memories. She was a crush that I had hidden for quite some time, and had even fantasized about. I sometimes wonder how different things may have been between us if I had found my assertive and Dominant side while I was still young, rather than in my thirties.

We share some small talk, asking each other about relationships and what we did after graduation. I balk, however, when she asks me what I’ve been up to lately. Yes, I sputter out a few quick answers about my job and family, but it’s quite obvious that I’m holding something back. She senses this, and tries to push to get me to open up, but I’m not certain about how she’ll react to knowing my kinkier side, since I was always the quiet one in my school days. I don’t want to ruin this nice dinner by bringing up something that spoils her view of me.

However, she’s quite persistent, and after a bit more pressuring, I cave in and reveal my spanking endeavors. To my surprise, she doesn’t seem repulsed by it. She actually leans in a bit closer when I finally mention it, ready to hear what I have to say. After listening to my full story, she reveals that she actually found my email on my spanking blog, which she stumbled upon by accident. She was actually intrigued by the idea, though she’s never actually been spanked, herself.

Well, I’ve never been the type to let an opportunity pass me by, especially when it involves the possibility of making a dream come true. With a wry smile, I tell her that if she’s curious about what I do, then I could always offer to give her a quick sample, so that she might be able to understand the attraction that so many feel towards a warm bottom. It’s a shot in the dark, but if knowing that I’m a spanker hasn’t scared her away, then perhaps she won’t be frightened off by such a bold move on my part.

As if trying to shock me with her willingness, she leans forward and asks if I’m going to take her someplace more private, or spank her in the middle of the restaurant like I’ve done with other girls. I smile at the obvious reference to some of my spanking exploits, but reply that I don’t live very far from here. If she trusts me enough to be alone with me, I suggest that my home is far more comfortable than a restaurant restroom or the backseat of my car. She agrees, and I pay the bill on the way out the door to my car.

As we enter my home, I escort her into the living room and offer to make her a drink. She asks for some soda, and then makes herself comfortable on my couch. I quickly fix a pair of drinks before returning and taking a seat beside her. As she sips at the refreshing beverage, I ask her if she’s really ready for this, and remind her that this is the last chance that she’ll have to back out. She insists that she’s too curious to back down, and says that she and her bottom are ready.

With a grin, I take the drink from her hand and place it on the coffee table. I then slip my arm around her waist and pull her towards me, letting her ease into position across my knees with her bottom raised enticingly. She starts to breathe a bit deeper when she’s put over my knee, a bit expectant and anxious about what’s going to transpire. I try to quell her fears, though, softly massaging her upturned bottom to prepare her for the next step.

The spanking begins with slow and steady swats, just barely enough for her untouched bottom to feel a light sting. She squirms slightly as the sensations reach her, though she puts up no fight for the gentle play. Once she’s feeling more comfortable in this position, I slowly start to pick up the pace, landing firmer and faster strokes, though still within the lightest spankings possible. I’m not going to blister a newbie on her first trip over my lap.

Her body writhes softly against the series of spanks, showing no signs of obvious distress. I pause, though, rubbing her bottom tenderly while I check on her reactions to make sure that she’s alright. As if to give me the green light, though, she looks over her shoulder and asks if this is when her jeans and panties have to come down. I chuckle, telling her that it doesn’t have to be, but that it sounds like a good idea. With a wicked gleam in her eye, she pulls herself up off of my lap. She slides down her jeans and panties, and then places her freshly bared bottom back over my knee.

Her derriere is exactly how I had imagined it. I cup the soft cheeks in my palms, enjoying the heat and touch against my fingers. This, however, is not what I’m here to do. Wishing that I could sit there and fondle her forever, I know that I have to move on to bigger things. My hand finally pulls away from her supple flesh, and then descends again in a firm swat.

She gasps at the sudden sensation of palm striking bare bottom, but she manages to let the feeling sink in without struggling. The spanking is a bit harder, now, and more intense. As the sting builds, she finally loses her control and starts to squirm back and forth with the swats. She does not fight, though, and takes the rising crescendo of spanks like a veteran.

I give her one more pause, letting the sensations sink in while I rub away some of the sting. She moans as I squeeze her pink skin, pushing her bottom up into the contact. With this last bit of encouragement, I decide to end her initiation with a grand finale. My hand rises back up above my shoulder once more, then blurs in a sudden hail of vicious spanks to her unprepared bottom. She kicks and squeals from the immediate onslaught, but keeps her place on my lap. This flurry of spanks only lasts for a few moments, though, before they end as abruptly as they began.

Basking in the afterglow, I massage her tender tush while she takes it all in. This is so very new to her, yet she does not seem angered or sorrowful about her treatment. A weak smile crosses her lips as my fingers stroke her bottom affectionately. After a few moments, I ask her how she liked it, and she replies that it was something that she felt she could grow to enjoy.

It is late in the day, though, and she has other engagements to see to. Exchanging promises to keep in touch, and to do this again soon, we say our goodbyes and I walk her back out to her car. I feel a bit of regret, though, as I watch her drive away. Thinking of when we were both in high school, I wonder how differently things would have turned out if I had found my Dominant side back then.